FATHERHOOD IN THE 21st CENTURY
Let me get a bit serious on this one. So yesterday as I was reading through the daily nation I came across an article by one Karimi Gatigi “Fatherhood is more than paying school fees” she says , Fatherhood is not just about getting someone pregnant, most men can do this, even with their eyes closed. You can read the article on,
In the modern society, biological father absence is one of the social problems with the estimated number going up each and every day. Personally I never grew up with a dad, It didn’t hit me how important he meant in my life till later in life when I needed to man up and pick up gentleman’s challenges as expected by the society. As a young boy who wanted to explore the world i didn’t have anyone to guide me through, mentor me and help me grow in such ways as a boy is required to. Many assume that is the role of a father to his son which is true.
The presence of a RESPONSIBLE father improves a variety of outcomes for children and serves as a protective factor against young men problem behaviors. I am not a fatherhood expert but I believe as a young man who hopefully will be a father to someone someday, I would like to share what I think is important to do as a father.
“Men, our families are dying on the field and many of us are not even suited up. We cannot allow the world’s affairs and its stuff to pull us away from our primary mission as a husband and a dad: To love our wife as Christ loves His church and build into the lives of our kids. If this isn’t happening on a regular basis, we need to call a timeout and evaluate our game plan.” Dr James family talk.
- Love your wife as Christ loves His churchand build into the lives of your kids.
Genesis 2:24 That is why a man leaves his fathers and mothers house and is united to his, wife and they become one flesh
When you vow before the church, family and friends to commit to only one woman till death do you part, let it come straight from your heart. If you love your wife and treat her like a queen, your daughters will do the same to their future husbands. Your sons will emulate you and treat their wives exactly the same way.
Ephesians 5:25 love your wife like Christ loved the church.
- Bring up your children in the ways of the lord
26 Whoever fears the LORD has a secure fortress, and for their children it will be a refuge.
As a father, bring up your family in the ways of the lord Jesus Christ as he instructed.
Ephesians 6:4, Fathers do nor exasperate your children; instead bring them up in the training and instructions of the lord.
- Humble yourself before God and your family
As we come near to God, God comes near to us…as we humble ourselves before God; He will lift us up (James 4:8, 10). As God pours His grace and truth into our lives through His word and prayer, that same grace and truth will overflow into the lives of our children.
But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”Joshua 24:15
- Be a friend and a cheerleader to your children
Celebrate your children every time they do something great with their lives. Be their best friend and they will confide in you with everything they do with their lives. That way you will never be in the dark with whatever is happening with them. In the same way a plant thrives when it receives a steady supply of water, a child’s self-esteem blossoms when he or she knows the acceptance and joy of their father.
- Be a father
A woman can only be a mother to her children; the role of the father is entirely yours. God has positioned you to be a leader in your family. Show your kids marriage works. Educate your children on behavior and social behaviors. Put the right boundaries in place. Make sure your children grow up to be responsible men and women in future long after you have left this world.
‘It’s time to man up and get the father job done. The role of a husband and a father is the most promising job on earth,’
I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race.” 2 Timothy 4:7
“I pray the lord guides me to be a responsible husband and a father figure to my future children.”